One day you realize that this is the year you enter your ninth decade. It is a blessing to be so fortunate. It also brings its burdens…if we let it.
Since our 50th reunion twelve years ago, a group of high school classmates and spouses has been meeting virtually each month and in person annually. It is not surprising that dynamics of aging command our attention, especially since we adopted a theme from Ram Dass – walking each other home.
In addition to companionship, we share books, articles and videos. I just began one of them, The Gift of Years: Growing Older Gracefully by Joan Chittister. The main theme is that whatever our age, life is about becoming more than we are as we enter it and being all that we can be throughout.
In brief but pithy reflections the book focuses on forty themes at the conclusion of which the author offers both the burdens and the blessings of the theme.
Take Regret for example. The twinges of regret are a step-over point in life. They invite us to revisit the ideals, motives and choices we made in the past that have brought us to where we are now.
The burden of regret is that, unless we come to understand the value of the choices we made in the past, we may fail to see the gifts they have brought us.
The blessing of regret is clear – it brings us, if we are willing to face it head on, to the point of being present to this new time of life in an entirely new way. It urges us on to continue becoming.
Here is a question, reader, whatever your age. What are your current “step-over” points in life, and what are their burdens and blessings?
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“The Gift of Years” is a favorite. (Gave it to Winnie). I was fortunate to have seen Joan Chittister speak. She’s a young soul. So are you! Agreed, the burdens and blessings is deep down stuff. This group must definitely be in the blessing category. Thanks for this reminder of burdens and blessings as gifts in our years
So good to hear from you, Linda. One of the gifts to our family is to have you in our lives and to know how sustained your faith and love have been in the “deep down stuff.” I’ll pass along your sentiments to our high school group. Many blessings…
As usual, superb writing and relevant food for thought especially at this stage of life. Thank you. Janet
I’m pleased that the words and sentiments connect and grateful for your affirmations. Best, Bob
Bob, this is just so great. I needed it this morning so much!! Thank you for you!!
So glad it connected, Deb. And thanks for saying so. No doubt the universe tapped us both on the shoulder this morning. Best wishes. Bob
Hey there, Bub – I’d like to explore this further with the Boyz. Thank you for the continued guidance. Tim
Hey Tim – I’d love to – worthy discussion for all of us. Bob